The gift of the Present Tense

One of my dilemmas since my husband died is how to gently navigate my way through the inevitable moments of conversation when I’m not sure whether to explain that my husband died last year.   It’s one of the great inconveniences of the English language...

Widow’s club

It’s “the first Christmas”. One of many firsts since my husband died. I somewhat hesitantly go to a Christmas gathering in the valley where I live. I bump into a friend whose husband died two weeks after mine and we start chatting to a woman we know...

The space to just BE

My 15 year old and I are sitting with our friends. A discussion begins about the hairs on my son’s thighs – my son laughingly complains about the way they are growing (randomly) and our friends gently tease him about them. I say “They’re the...

Rusty bear trap

I sit down for a quick focusing session around a current life issue. I bring my issue to mind and sense into my body. Immediately, I feel sensation on the top of my head, in the crown area. I say hello to the sensation and stay present with it, observing it with...