The day you died

Of course, I didn’t know this was the day you were going to die. In the morning, I could see your spirit trying to leave your body. Your face would turn deathly pale, almost grey and then you would grimace with effort and the life force would seem to come back...

Empathy is learned

This morning, as I was driving my daughter to school, a car was driving closer behind my car than I felt comfortable with. There seemed to be a sense of urgency in the driver. These days, rather than getting irritated or annoyed, if I can and if I’m not in a...

Inner wisdom

Dinnertime often seems to become empathy and emotional download time for my kids. I usually ask them how their day was. I had noticed how they often talk about the negative things that happened that day more than the positive. Judging this to be negativity bias, I...

In their own time – on children and grief

It’s just 16 months since my husband and the father of my two children died of cancer. We cared for him at home and he died peacefully at home with us at his side. After his death, I held many rituals for him. I’ve never really been much of a ritual person...

The Lantern Principle

When I was in my 30s, I was a food and nutrition evangelist. I’d had such health problems and changing my diet and way of eating transformed my health so I wanted everyone to experience it. I also had really strong beliefs about nutrition for conception, pregnancy and...